Sadly to say, more than 50% of all marriages fail. When relationships meet head on with challenges, more times than not, people just quit trying to make things work. The fact of the matter is that relationships are difficult. Things are not perfect, fights do happen, and it takes 100% commitment from both people in the relationship to make it a success. One of the main reasons relationships do not work is because one of people feels something is missing, and the “spark” is gone.
So, to keep the love alive, let’s get headed in the right direction! Here are five ways to spark up your relationship.
- Start Over
At the beginning of relationships in the “dating” stage, everything is fun and exciting. Lovers overlook those small annoying things that the other one does. But further in the relationship, the nagging begins. To stop the griping, the couple should sit down and identify the things in the beginning of the relationship that created the attraction to one another. Then they must commit to each other to start over, and work on it together. The first thing they must do is forgive each other, forget the past, and jump start and start over with flirtation. This will take some time, but the key is to be patient.
- Schedule Time
Spending quality time together is extremely important. Although life keeps us busy with meetings and engagements, a couple must make time for each other. This may include spending time with one another – just the two of you – or having out with friends, attending a sporting event together, or cuddling together on the couch. What you are doing is not important; the important thing is that you are doing something together.
- The Power of Touch
The power of touch is so amazing. Playing with your mate’s hair, giving a massage, kissing him or her on the back of the neck can make a big difference in how your loved one responds to you.
A little suggestion for you – the next time you are sitting in the car, walking through the grocery store, standing in line for that favorite concert, gently reach over and take your lover’s hand. He/she may respond with curiosity at first, but go with it!
- Surprise
Instead of going on that scheduled Friday night date, arrange a surprise instead. When Friday comes around, insist on driving, and head toward your surprise location. Your lover will probably wonder where you are headed. Tell him/her, “I have a surprise for you.” You doing something special for him/her will touch their heart.
- Needed Space
Of course it is important to spend quality time together, but at the same time, it is important to have “alone time”. You should give each other time to do what you like. If your mate loves to work in the garage on his cars, boat, etc., and this is not your bag of chips, you should give him time to do what he likes, while you can call up those friends with whom you’ve been meaning to catch up.
Best wishes to all of you. Keep the love alive, flirt, make the other one feel special, and have fun!
Source: Bishop, Bob. “5 Tips for Long Lasting Relationships”. Holistic Living. http://1stholistic.com/Reading/health/A2004/health-5-tips-for-long-lasting-relationships.htm
