Whether you have been married for years or are just new to a relationship, here are a few intimacy-building techniques:

• Listen with the TV Off. Listening, undivided-attention-completely listening can reduce conflict, boost trust, and lead to a more satisfying relationship. Listening requires not only both of you to be in the room, but also turning off the TV and making eye contact and maybe a little follow up of what you hear.
  
• Focus on the Relationship Positives. The first few loving months of dating, everything you like about your partner is highlighted. However, as time passes on, you soon take for granted all the positives in that special person and focus on what bothers you. The key is to make a conscious effort to focus on the things you love about your lover.
  
• Stop the Nagging. Nagging creates tension, gets you nowhere, and your partner will tune you out. Talk with your partner about what you don’t like, say what you would prefer and give alternatives. Balance the criticisms with positives. Remember to let your partner know how much you appreciate their other good qualities.
  
• Spend More Time Together. If you make dates with your lover, keep them. Relationships flourish when the people in them feel committed. Enjoy each other’s company, especially first thing in the morning, at the end of the workday, and right before going to sleep. Make each other feel important.
  
• Touch More Often. Physical and emotional communication are equally important in a relationship. However, physical communication relieves tension and displays to your partner how much you care. Hug and kiss during the day.

Source: Rauh, Sherry. “Get Closer to Your Mate in 2006.” http://www.webmd.com/content/article/98/104802.htm.